Something New

HELLO WONDERMOUS PEOPLE OF the blogosphere world!!!! I know its been a hot minute since I have written anything but oh well. Sometimes I have things to talk about and sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I want to keep my thoughts to myself and sometimes I want to shout everything from the rooftop while dancing a jig. **Shrugs** It all just depends on my mood and motivation.  So I have been keeping a little secret. Actually it’s a big secret. I haven’t shared it with a ton of people because I have enjoyed the privacy of it all. Privacy… Does that even exist in this day and age?? **scratches head in confusion**

Soooo here is the secret…

Single in Brooklyn…

Is…

Not Single ANYMORE!!!!

SHUT.YOUR.FACE!!!!! SAY WHAT?!?!? Yes y’all. I am OFF THE MARKET… Not that I ever really put myself on the market but yeh the most wonderful man in the world snagged me and I am so deliriously happy. Like I could shit rainbows and glitter… That’s how happy I am. I should probably back up and rewind this fairytale instead of just throwing you in the middle of it.

REEEEWIND!!!!!!!! **in my Missy Elliot voice**

August 15th or sometime in there I decided to play on the dating app Bumble. Now me and dating apps have not hit it off at all. It’s a bunch of creeps on there if you ask me. Check out my Dating Chronicles on FB… They are pretty freaking hilarious. I basically hit up dating apps just for the pure comedy of it all. I mean… ITS HILARIOUS!!!! Anyway I happened to “swipe right ” on a handsome guy and low and behold he had swiped right on me as well. “ITS A MATCH” popped up on my screen and so I had to initiate the conversation because on BUMBLE the woman has to make the move… Whatever. So I wrote him a message and a few minutes later… HE WROTE BACK!!! SHUT UP!!!! OOOOOOk. Sooooo we went back and forth on the app texting for like 2 days and then I said “Here is my number… USE IT!!!” AND HE DID!!! We texted like teenagers, cracked a lot of jokes and the  lame sarcasm was REAL!!!!! So then  he said “I am going to call you.” WAIT…. WHAT?!?!?! What happened to just texting?? I’m so awkward over the phone so I basically had a mini panic attack but said “Ok” I calmed my nerves and he called!!! I still wasn’t ready. Thank God he needed to be on the move because our conversation was super quick.  So after I got off the phone with him I called my mom. Why??? BECAUSE THATS WHAT YOU DO AS AN ADULT WHO JUMPS BACK INTO DATING AFTER 7 YEARS!!! You hang up and call mom for advice. ANYWAY I was excited but told my mom I wasn’t really sure.

FAST FORWARD A FEW DAYS

We agreed to meet in person. Figured our texting was amazing so it was way overdue. Now let me be totally honest. I was so damn nervous. What if he wasn’t what I was expecting? What if I wasn’t what he was expecting? What if he was shorter than me? What if he talked like he had a weird snot bubble in his throat? What if what if What if What if…. The entire walk from the train to the coffee shop I talked to myself. I was going back and forth with “Do I keep walking and meet this guy or do I turn my black ass around and go back home?? Khrys… It’s not too late girl. You do NOT have to do this. You can bust a U and get on the train… It’s right around the corner girl. DO IT!!! Well shit you’re at the coffee shop now… Never mind. Might as well go in and get this over with. Should have turned around a long time ago but did you listen?? NOOOOOOOOO!!!” I walked into the coffee shop a freaking big haired bundle of nerves. “Its ok Khrys. Whats the worst that could happen?? Just know that you are CUTE(even though you rarely show it), You are an amazing FREAKING HUMAN BEING and if this goes wrong then y’all can be friends. Deal? Deal. Alright Shoulders back Girl!” I took a deep shaky breath and looked around. He wasn’t hard to find. He was the only other black person in there.  We made eye contact and we both smiled. Y’all his smile was EVERYTHING!!! I know he could see my slight exhale of relief because I saw his. We introduced ourselves, shook hands, made nervous small talk , ordered caffeinated beverages and headed out to walk around the high line. This was the most LOW KEY amazing date that I have ever been on in life!!! We played in the Samsung store, Played make believe in the Tesla Store and played around in Warby Parker. All of that was followed by a walk on the high line. We talked NON-STOP about anything and everything. The energy was amazing. Conversation came easy, laughter was a given and it just felt right. Everything about that first date was RIGHT.  I think our date lasted way longer than either of us expected. We didn’t know how to end it and when it did come time for it to end… We just kind of stood there like “Ok well… Um do we hug? Do I shake your hand? Wait… How the hell does this work?!?!?!”  We settled on a hug and that was our first date.

So the day after our first date he was super busy and I had to fly out the very next day for work.  I was going to be gone for 2 weeks. I told him that I wasn’t going to be able to talk much while away but I would do my best. Dude… I was gone for 2 whole weeks. We texted EVERY DAY for 2 weeks. All times of the night and morning. We talked about anything and everything. Dreams, dream vacations, our pasts, what we wanted for our futures( not a future together because we were just getting to know each other) but just goals and stuff like that. We talked about past relationships. WE TALKED ABOUT EVERYTHING!!!  I  was able to be as candid as ever and there was never judgment between us. EVER.  We had this weird instant connection.  Like my heart beat a little faster when my phone would buzz with a text. I would smile just thinking about him. I knew I was in deep and we had literally just met.

WORK BREAK

I had a week off from work when I got back from travels and the first thing we did was set up a date.  We met up and walked the same spots we walked the first time we met but veered off a little to a cool little restaurant near by to grab a quick bite to eat and drinks. We took a seat and he went to the bar to order our drinks. He came back and we held hands and chatted about everything!! I was a ball of excited energy because I was seeing this amazing man again and our first date wasn’t a fluke!!! WE LEGIT enjoyed each others company!!! A few minutes later the bartender brought a drinks over and we lifted our drinks to cheers. I looked down and this was in front of me:

This napkin was in front of me. He had the bartender sit it in front of me with my drink. Of course you see what I circled.  I mean how freaking romantic is that!!! I swear my little grinch heart grew ten sizes that day.

Fast forward to Now

We are still kicking it!!! We are still going strong.  For someone who has a dislike for being around people a lot of the time… I LOVE being with him. I hate sharing my private space but I love when he is with me.  Getting close to people normally causes me stress and a shit ton of anxiety but with him I can’t get close enough.  For someone who can’t stand being in someones arms because again,I LOVE MY SPACE and I am prone to hot flashes… I LOVE being wrapped in his arms. I feel safe and treasured when I am with him. I never thought in a million years I would find that someone that truly understood me. Never thought in a million years that I would find someone who loved my tomboyish ways. Never thought in a million years that I would find someone that LOVES my hulled out days (95% of the time I’m in sweats and my hair is in twists or under a beanie and I never have makeup on). This amazing wondermous man has seen me dolled up maybe 5 times and he still thinks I am beautiful dressed up or hulled out. This amazing man knows when my brain is working over time and knows that just the touch of his hand in mine makes all anxieties go away. This amazing man knows me and loves me… all of me.

Here is the thing: I never thought there was someone out there that was made for me. I never thought I would find my puzzle piece because I have so many areas that no one has ever truly fit.  We are so different yet we complement each other. We FIT!!  HOLY SHIT I FOUND SOMEONE THAT FITS ME!!!! I found him or did he find me?? Maybe the thing is that we found each other. Neither of us was really looking but that’s how you find it right?? When you aren’t looking??  I have no idea what this amazing ride has in store but for once I am excited to see where it goes.